We have been talking yesterday about a T-to-T relationship. The issue is just a peak away. It started when my friend curiously asked her teen cousin why his big sister would just send money for her friend-slash-roommate T instead of him or her dad directly. She got curious and jokingly said a piece to little cousin-slash-little brother j. For j to answer and revealed a thing from her big cousin, and knowing that I was there, would be just I think having a little of a trust from us. And so I will not be going to name names here, hehe and I will not be going to elaborate anything for the trust to stay unharmed, huh.
For many reasons, we, Filipinos do not accept things like this one click, especially catholic churches. It’s a really big issue. While many people outside our country already accepted the fact and embraced the humiliation done by those who oppose with it and lived a life seems naturals to them, like having no issue with it at all, we, don’t. And for one reason, though I don’t react with it as intense as my friend does, I would like to say, it doesn’t look okay with me too. Though I have accepted it like many enthusiasts do (I don’t think I have my term right, only just a less lower with the term), I have this feeling it isn’t right pa din, you know, that’s why I said it doesn’t look okay.
Back when I was still training for a transcription school here in manila, we have made a friend like with T. Sometimes, once having leisurely times just sitting in a cafeteria or in a convenience store nearby while having our breaks and taking coffees or donuts we would share thoughts about it, me together with our two other friends, one a gracing lady and other a gay confessed guy. T would sometimes share her life with her other partner T with us. She’d share their experiences having the vocal relationship with her partner’s family and hers, though having some people near them differ, you know because T partner is a Muslim, and they don’t allow it in their religion. When our gay friend asked us about what we can say about them, being them belonging to a third sex family, and the same sex relationship, I had just said, I have an uncle who’s a gay, I think I can handle the situation, hehe. I said, I think it’s okay, and never expound my side. I don’t know I just have this point of view that wherever they are comfortable, it’s ok for me, but still it isn’t right! May be I think because I have this Christian values that’s why, and this got me the biggest impact, huh! It is still not right, period.
While we are having our pieces for the conversation my friend’s cousin j asked us, me and my friend, his cousin, who’s also a j, what if it would happen to us also (awkward) since we, for some people to know, are also staying in a same place, having a shared apartment just like her T cousin/his sister and her cousin/sister’s T friend, and the loud echo of hilarious laughter comes next, haha, what for an innocent teen little boy to ask it. But yes, he has all the point why he asked, to tell that he had shared story like those. My friend j, who’s then washing her clothes, said that he was just a very little boy, on 3 or 4 ages, when we begun our friendship. That’s true. It must be 12 something years of blossoming friendship. It all started being high school classmates. All of us does developed this especial bond throughout these many many years. If one would ask why we share the same place today, it is because we can’t afford our own metro abode by ourselves, and so we decided to merge our place for a much better, reserved, combined little-but-comfortable abode.
We then shared an incident to him, still laughing loud. Once we were walking in a foot bridge going home, while having a very cheerful conversation and acting the way we conversed and a lady passing us, looked at us in great amazement. I think for a second why she’d look at us like that, but then I realized when I got myself back to the conversation and realized what we were talking about. It’s about an American whom guided by a Filipina girlfriend/wife to shopping. And my friend had just half hugging me, holding my elbow taking an example, and saying, honey, and then the lady looked! What a!
When having friends for many many long years and always having a conversation like talking anything under the sun, anything could be said and it could happen anywhere, like in a public place you never notice you have said something that looks foul to the hearer, boom, and then you just laugh for it, hence, it’s a total laughter! Haru naku, mga maarte ho kami sa tunay na buhay, akalain.
When her cousin left, my friend shared her personal point of view. She spoke so shocked, a bit disappointed..
My T friend from training is already in Canada. She said she was petitioned by her partner. ‘til now I still don’t have the idea how she have been petitioned. May be Canada do allow a fiancé visa? I don’t know, maybe I can search it to the net to have the proper comprehension..
